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Comment on: Is there anyone out there willing to help???

Posted in poorman1 on Aug 16, 2008

 in response to CopperHair...   

I have enjoyed are interaction on here, but I have to stand up for what I know to be true. You don't have to believe it,  it doesn't change the reality. of it.   I don't usually answer people this way.   But u opened the can of worms, so to speak.  I'm very saddened,  by what you wrote, don't bother getting tissue,  our for me. For I know with out a doubt the things that you have wrote, to be not true.  His so called resurrection, I have to as a person who is alive, literally because He was born to die for me and you.  I'm appalled, that you actually are so deceived, but that is why its called deceived  deception is a horrible thing, there are many pastors that are received also. 

 I feel bad that you have been so blinded by whom ever,  that you could make such statements when you ever experience something, that would be called hear say,  and thrown out a in  of court of law, I  on the other hand  am speaking from something,  that I and countless others have experienced.... 

You can say all day how rain does not exist,  put if you  have not gone out in it, felt the wetness of it on your face,  and watched  water puddle up and get you all wet.  I  don't think you are in a place to make a judgment call, unless you are willing to experience the truth of it , and then, you as all of have a right to a opinion.....  its not about,  when He was born. 

 Its about  why He was born, and that to come here and live a perfect life, and still suffer,  and  then go to  the  cross, having done , nothing except love you beyond anything  that any of us have ever experienced.   '

WELL for a lot, a whole of believers  we do believe the Word of God  to be true... Is not a financial,  but I do believe love is the way to reach across any obstacle  of color race or any thing. rather  than making hurtful statements, let us encourage one another with  with hope, and  caring for each other just because we are alive and count not matter what your belief system is. 

Oh yes,  He has claimed He and the Father are one,  over and over in the book of JOHN, but then that would require you to believe in the Word of God.  In every statement you have  made pretty much, I dispute and a child of God,  I have that right.  '

 He has said it, and I believe to be so. I feel really sad for you to have stumble thru life,  and you have a good heart I sensed that,   but  someone did a # on you friend.  A lot of us not all of course, speak this way because , we have been loved beyond,  all  human understanding, and this is why I love to help people, I do not like preachy people, and I know that is how I am sounding and I hate that, so forgive the way I have perhaps presented, but since I'm not perfect this is what you get... :)  because  all any of us that believe this way, love others as He did, for He is love..  We help each other,  or I do because of my great love for people , and that comes from His great love for me.  

I don't pick and choose , and put people down for what they believe to be is true, and I certainly wouldn't try tearing them apart,  like a shark and then ( laugh out loud) like what I just read.  I know we have  had a couple of talks, but I never saw this coming...  I am not perfect , nor any one I know except for,  Jesus. 

 People as I said, or I will speak my self  on this,  I have lived it and  experienced this,  its not a game.  I feel very very sad for you, because it seems that,  there is a part of you or so  I thought , that really  cared about people,  but after reading this post. Most of things I read were hurtful , not helpful to anyone, no matter what someone chooses to believe.. coming on here and  crushing,  kind hearted  people .  Just because they believe differently than  you,  won't work,  one because we  who believe this,  know  and have no doubts,  about who is Lord in our life..

I really hope you still want to speak me, I was enjoying our visits, and talks, I would be more than happy to tell you my story or some it.  For it would take several books to put on paper, but I'm here and alive and have faith, and care for people I never met for one reason, Jesus , He lives in my heart...

How sad you would use the term lol,  for those who dont know  what that means, it mean- laugh out loud.

I try not to judge,  one because He has said not to judge, people do  though even I at  times,   but that's  not His fault He gave us a free will.

So I'm  a little upset, He needs no defense... At all, I was the one who was offended, I will get over it, just life.

The thing is it doesn't matter , if you believe in Him,  for He believes in you,

God bless you,  I really am going to be praying for you because, I think your worth it... now go, and LOL if you like,  but I will stand by all I have said.

God bless you,

Embracing the Cross, and His Great love for me,  unconditionally.  its about 5am, but I had to write you back, because you are worth it...  you can write me privately or publicly, it doesn't matter to me, I'm not ashamed of  my 'best friend"  and all he has done for me and others and continues to.

Kat

 

Comment on: What's on your heart and mind today?

Posted in How are you today? on Aug 15, 2008

 in response to liltweety...   

I'm so sorry things are so bleak right now, but you remember you have your children  to hug and kiss good nite, even if its in a sleeping bag on the street. Kids will usually choose a parent or parents give the choice between them and the streets,, I will be praying for you..  Kids want to be near their parents..  God sees a the big picture I don't and believer me there have been too many times I almost said forget, don even pray for me. I won't go into my stories but some of them are posted in some of my posts..  

I pray that God will bless you abundantly for your needs, and that you will have peace that goes beyond your understanding....

Kat 

Kat

Comment on: Dental implants

Posted in dentist1 on Aug 14, 2008

 in response to CopperHair...   

Hi, thank you so much for your concern,  and sharing.  Years ago they said I had TMJ,  and treated me for it briefly.  I will check out that site,  the last specialisti I saw told me it had to do with the roof of my mouth, my mom always did say I had was mouthy..   oh well, I have to keep my since of humor.. :)  or try.  I need to ask him exactly what its called..  but its like a bump or ridges,  but I have to have a special top denture made that would have no pallet part, here comes the bummer part, 4 implants  to hold this special denture in, and 2 for the  bottoms.  that was my primary problem,  second he said  where my gag reflex sits  is also where the pallet part would go... last but not least,  me who as you can tell can be very long winded, talk forever if I could kind of person, has a mouth the size of a child...

I'm not giving up, and you have no idea how much I appreciate it, when someone takes the time to write me. Trys  to help me. with ideas,.  Believe  me,  just   hearing some encouraging words are a blessing at this point.

I lost my teeth , because, I had severe dentist phobia, really, so when I had to go see one, I wanted to make it  be  really  brief.  and if they said root canal,   I said take the tooth, and I said it one too many times.. How I regret not listening to the dentist at that time.

I empathize with your husband on the eating thing.  weird stuff is hard to eat with just gums.  rice, noodles, things that u would think would be easy..

In one of my posts I wrote about its no joke to choke, something to that effect.... I have had more choking experiences in the last 2 weeks I've had for awhile, I hope your husband doesn't go thru that,  much  its very scary, especially when your alone, and you don't know if  your are going to get the food unstuck or not. My heart goes out to you both...

I will defiantly keep your husband and  all  us    or with lack of teeth and lack of proper dentures, in my prayers, for this is our  about  health.. and not cosmetic surgrery..

Ok Im done.. sorry for the length of my my repsonse but that is just kind how I am... and lately I havent heen on here  harldy at all,  been going thur really weird stuff, I won't bore you with any it, althogh its not not not boring stuff just very sad and depressing.. but Im  a trooper I will bounce back, kind of like the cat in the hat :)

KA.

thank you again for sharing with me and trying to help.... there are good people out there, and you are one of them....

God Bless you in your needs and your wants too..

Kat

p. s.  I think almost all of the pictures , except a couple that you see on here are  with one of two of the dentures I ownI can  only where  either for a very short time.   but I really use to smile from my heart, and I do sometimes,  but mostly just because it looks better,  but its not about cosmetics, for any of us that suffer, medically because of this horrible, horrible, and at times unbearably, because we have convinced all the  right people YET that can help us.. So I empathize with your husband and with  you, its hard watching someone u love suffer and continue to suffer..  I Wat to start writing State legislatures,  ADA - American dental association. an some others, I hope your husband would be willing to get involved in helping me, when I get  the letters together.

Kat  one of the few pics I have on here with out teeth.   We need, we were to have them, they are not a luxury, need to chew food, so we can digest our food...   any  good nite...

 

 

Comment on: About Feda422

Posted in Feda422 on Aug 8, 2008

I'm sorry I havent got back to you sooner, what cute kids... I hope u got your job at walmart, and I really want to spend some time talking with you, getting to know you and about your beautiful family. Right now, I can't, I dont believe it myself. Im coverd with some wierd rash, looks like posion oak, not sure yet, Im very sentive to it... and I look like Ive got the plaque, than God I can laugh at myself... I promise I will get back to yu tomorrow and will be praying for you and yours in the meantime.... off I go, hope I dont have to have a steroid shot YUCK Kat

Comment on: About Nez

Posted in Nez on Aug 6, 2008

Hi Nez,  I have a dautgher that is a single mom of 4 kids, and 4 different dads, alot of people put her down, but that doesn't really help anything, she has them from age 4 to  almost 15, and I respect anyone, no matter what circumstances they got in to have kids and be alone. It very very hard on here and other mothers such as your self, I will pray for you and how you get your needs met.

Ka

:)

Comment on: update

Posted in forevernbluejeans on Aug 6, 2008

Hello there,  I'm so glad u were out also, I will certainly say a prayer that u will get to keep you car , till  you at least start your job.   You gooooo.... if you have park your car in a friends garage till Mon,  that will give you time to talk to them and to start new joy with the use of a car.  Will continue to pray for you..

Kat

Comment on: About mommy2skie

Posted in mommy2skie on Aug 6, 2008

 in response to mommy2skie...   

How are you doing?  I hope no news is good news    in your case, you really were ready to try all kinds of things to make things better... I hope all is well, I really miss hearing from you... How did your auction go?  Give yourself a big hug   f rom me and your precious little girl... and I know your husband trys real hard to .Hope all well miss hearing from you..  hang in there..

your friend Kat

Comment on: What's on your heart and mind today?

Posted in How are you today? on Aug 5, 2008

 in response to tammi13...   

Please do not give up, its easy in times such as these to start feeling there is no help, there.might me iut food on the table,givi,, up, means you stop reaching out, and can you get help,  if you stop asking or looking there will be no answer found and if you choose to give up there will be no help..   No one likes to see some come in say I give up theres no help,  only because we no how futile you feel.. So I hope you will write me back I would really lile to help, or try..

your , one  of many friends here at aippage

please let me hear from u and a little more of strory,''

thanks for reading this Kat

Comment on: What's on your heart and mind today?

Posted in How are you today? on Aug 5, 2008

 in response to forevernbluejeans...   

What a kind, and  honest  person those things a aree with thiem, I agree totally, I do still have a desperate need. but you know start reading the problems people have, you go to another level of gratefulness. I hope you sitill stick around, you are kind hearted, and care for people. You have no idea, sometimes, if all you have to say is that your feeling  empathetic, and you, encourage some one with your kindness, that can be a start to helping someone.. I hope you find all you need., You have put a smile on my face.  There are some that come here, in here that turn out to be special angels,

God Bless,

Make it the  best day you can :)

Kat

Comment on: Aidpage group discussing "FREE DENTAL"...

Posted in Discussing "FREE DENTAL" on Aug 3, 2008

 in response to desparatedebrh...   

Hello, this a very good point, but there have been 2 dentists , that I know of that of came here.  one seemed to understand the great necceity for changes to be made...  I reponded, now I have not given up yet. and I won't.  I have ideas on getting the word out, and they are working on it... until then my unknown friend, talk,talk and talk some more to everyone you know that may go to a dentist, dr. oral surgeon, what ever,  and write  on a 3 X5 card,  aidpage.com    and then maybe people helping people, and ask your friend or friends to please ask their Dentist, DR, Oral surgeon, what ever it is...  To please take  a few moments of there day or weekend to come and read abour some of us.. The outside world, out side the net needs to be reached.. also I want to start writing ADA..... shower them with emails, well wrote emails.. they have a few other ideas too.. let me know if you want to talk futher on this and we can  brain storm some more ideas...  I appreciated what you wrote  in your post/response.....

Make it a good day....Kat :)

About Feeling invisible- YOU ARE NOT!

Posted in Feeling invisable- YOU ARE NOT! on Aug 3, 2008

DO YOU FEEL INVISABLE?    Sometimes do you   feel like no one even knows your on the planet?   YOU are most likely having a hard time in life, you may feel like nobody sees you , because if they did, they one you know how bad things  are , that you are hurting in one way or the other.   Sometimes when we feel that way, we think that people should just know how things are...  BUT REALLY UNLESS YOU TELL PEOPLE SOMETMES THEY ARE JUST GOT UP IN THERE OWN WORLD, WITH THERE OWN ISSUES.....   ITS NOT THAT DON'T CARE, OK SOME DON'T CARE.BUT THERE ARE ALOT OF PEOPLE THAT DO, MORE THEN EVEN I REALIZED TILL RECENTLY.  I WAS FEELING DESPERATE AND LIKE ONCE AGAIN I WAS INVISABLE, THAT KNOW MATTER HOW MANY PEOPLE I TOLD ABOUT MY ISSUES, THAT SEEM, LIKE THEY WILL NEVER HAVE A ANSWER TOO,  MINE RIGHT NOW OUR DENTAL ISSUES AND  I HAVE FOUND I AM NOT ALONE IN THIS THERE ARE MANY OUT THERE, GOING THUR VERY SIMILULAR PROBLEMS WITH THERE TEETH OR LACK OF.   MY POINT IS  I WASN'T ALONE,     I WAS NOT IN VISIABLE !!!!      YOU COULD HAVE LOST EVERYTHING YOU OWN DO TO A WEATHER DISASTER, A BREAK IN A MARRAIGE, ANY NUMBER OF REASONS, AND ALL OF SUDDEN YOU , FEEL LIKE YOU DON'T COUNT ANYMORE, BECAUSE YOU HAVN'T GOT THE CAR, THE HOUSE, AND THE EVER SO FAITHFUL DOG.  

WE    LIVE CAN OVER WHELM US  WITH FEELINGS,  OF ELATION, SADNESS,   OR BEING ANGRY AND DEPRESSED ,  then the  that happens is  after a while OUR WHOLE LIFE SEEMS TO BE DROWNING IN  ONE FEELING OR ANOTHER, THE SAD PART ITS USAUALLY THE NEGITIVE  FEELINGS  that seem to engulf us.  Life as taken a turn we didn't expect, there are WEATHER DISASTERS, DIVORSES, LOSS OF THE BEST JOB WE EVER HAD, the list goes on  & on.. Because of these things I and a lot of people really start to believe no one really cares out there...I WAS WRONG.   THERE ARE MANY PEOPLE WHO CARE, AS  I MENTIONENED EARLIER,     I just want to say that are people out in the world do  care about you, what you are going thru,  and what your   needs are. Now not all, maybe not even a lot, but they are out there.   You might be thinking, but I have nothing, no home like the "Smiths" , no white picket fence around my  house, and where is  that,  washer and dryer that's suppose to be in the garage..ALOT OF US GREW UP WITH THAT MENTALITY, SOMETHINGS WRONG WITH YOU,   IF YOUR NOT  MARRIED, HAVE CHILDREN , THE CUTE HOUSE, WITH THE EVER SO FAITHFULY DOG, AGAIN THE WHITE PICKET FENCE, THE WASHER/DRYER IN THE GARAGE.  AND AT LEAST ONE CAR OUT FRONT ALL SHINED UP...  Well that's all fine and nice and it happens for some, but I don't  that any one of us,   are suppose to have all those things, and if you don't have them,   certainly don't start beating your self up over it. Some people in life never own a home, have a apt..  some the streets are there home... some cant have children, dont want to bring children into a  hard world.  So sometimes its  just reality is not the same  for all of is, that can feel like a bummer..that's just the way life can be..  The good  part,  there are people that actually like to help, in what ever way that is feasible for  them,  recently like I mention earlier, I had came to that point of desperation again,  that I had pretty much, learn much pain, and gain,  learned to accept things as they were and give it my best,  and to TRY TO LOOK AT THE GLASS OF WATER HALF FULL INSTEAD  OF HALF EMPTY,  but because the hard times, I that I was now facing, as I briefly touched  on.   I was feeling like no one cared if I was sick because I cant get help   YET, I have to put yet, because for me that is a hope word,  well in my desperation, because of feeling sick and some other fears that go along with my problem. this not about that, so I wont go into any detail on it..  but because I was starting to get that invisible feeling again, which means Im starting to feel hopeless again,  I was  getting a bit freaked out, did want to follow that road,  it leads no where.. so I am fortunate to have a computer my one and I mean one thing I have allowed my self to keep,, for sanity reasons... but if you can got  use one, at a library,  down the street from where I live, honest to God, there is a gas station/store that has 2 computers they let customers use....     Anyway  I was on  mine at home feeling a bit nuts, and kept typing up in that little corner where I go often, on my computer to find things,  and  just randomly was typing help help help... something to that effect, I did say I was feeling a bit nuts.... and  well I ended up on a site,  that as far as Im concerned a gift from above,  it doesn't matter if you believe in a above or a God, but I do, and it was a answered prayer for my insanity at my hopeless situation.... took to this place/site.    where people actually.. are you sitting down???    PEOPLE ACTUALLY DO HELP EACH OTHER,  no strings attached..  Now I still have my teeth or lack of the money or the oral surgeon...... or any of that yet, but I think I found that site on June 27th or 29th. My life as take a turn, totally around,  haven't got  a new house, wasn't looking for one, you may be,  or any # of things that people are in need of that find this place how ever that is..I FOUND IM  VISIB LE,  I FOUND PEOPLE WANTING TO HELP  OTHERS,  AND YOU WHAT ALOT OF THESE PEOPLE THAT ARE HELPLING, ARE IN DIRE NEED THEMSELVES AS  AM I.....  WELL THATS WHAT CAME TO SAY,  YOU ARE NOT INVISIABLE!!!!  NEVER HAVE , NEVER WILL BE!!   AND THERE IS  HOPE, BUT PEOPLE CAN'T ALWAYS READ OUR MINDS, SOME TRY,  YOU ALMOST START BECOMING VISABLE, AS YOU REACH OUT TO SOMEONE ELSE,  WITH A CYBER HUG, A PRAYER, MAYBE YOU HAVE SOME INFO  THAT MIGHT HELP SOMEONE WITH THERE MESS/CRISIS..    I BELIEVE WITH ALL OF MY HEART, THAT ONE DAY,  SOME ONE IS GOING TO HAVE THE ANSWERES  I SO DESPERATELY NEEED, OR A ORAL SURGEON WILL STUMBLE ACROSS THIS WONERFUL PLACE i HAVE FOUND AND OFFER HELP..

WHAT EVER IT IS, THAT YOU ARE HAVING A HARD TIME WITH, FOOD, CLOTHING, HOUSING, MEDICAL, MARRIGE TROUBLE,  YOU WILL SURELY FIND SOMEONE TO HELP YOU WITH AT LEAST SOME ENCOURAGEING THOUGHTS, AND MAYBE EVEN THE  ANSWER YOU NEED...

THANKS FOR YOU TIME....MAKE  IT THE BEST  DAY YOU POSSIBLY CAN.

REMEMBER THE GLASS OF WATER IS HALF FULL NOT HALF EMPTY!!!

:) :):)   A SMILE FROM ME TO YOU,   WE ARE OUT HER THOSE WHO CARE!!

KAT

I ALOST CHOKE, AND IT NOT A JOKE, I GET SCARED, IM GOING TO CHOKE AND IM ALONE AND THEN I WILL DIE ALONE

Posted in kat57 on Aug 2, 2008

CHOKING  IS NO JOKE,  I HADNT DONE IT IN A FEW WEEKS AND THEN I WASNT ALONE, THEN AT LEAST YOU KNOW YOU WILL AT LEAST GET HELP. BUT WHEN YOUR HOME ALONE, AND YOUR HUNGRY AND YOU MISS EATING SOMETHING WITH SOME SUBSTANCE TO IT...  YOU JUST DO.  sometimes its ok, gag a little  and go about your business, when you have not teeth,  or cant use what you have, most of the time ITS EASIER TO GUM SOMETHING, well  does always work at that way, twice in the last two or three days,  once I was out with people and said are you ok, of course I couldn't answer them.. but I finally was able to swallow.

The other time I was alone and it was a piece of a pork chop, I use to love pork chops, any way I put a piece, in my mouth , I didn't think it was too big.  i was wrong,   I started gagging tried putting my head in all sort of positions to keep getting air.   I tried swallowing something ,to  try and push it down, mind you this was in a matter of less then a minute.  I dont know if you have ever choked on anything,  you make a horrible gurrlely noise with your throat, I guess its trying to get air.. I finally tried to give my self that thing where you make something dislodge. and there was  piece a meat, it looked bigger then when I tried to gum it.. I was hungry for pork chops anymore at least for a while....

Any way when you read about people in here, my self included that need special dental work done, my would be 6 implants and special dentures,  there a lot of us in here, and thousands probably out there in the world other then the cyber space world..   Who have not teeth,  and have lots of medical problems, YET WE CANT GET THE  HELP WE NEED TO LIVE, BECAUSE OF THE COST OF TEETH INPLANTS, OR WE ARE ON, SSI  AND HAVE THAT INSURANCE AND THEY WILL NOT TOUCH TEETH IMPLANTS, THEY SAY ITS ABOUT COSMETICS,  I SAY GIVE ME A BREAK, IS WANTING TO BE ABLE TO CHEW FOOD WITH OUT THE FEAR OF CHOKING, AND ONE DAY MAYBE NOT BE SO LUCKY AND YOU DIE ON YOUR KITCHEN FLOOR NEVER HAVING GOT TO SAY GOODBYE TO PARENTS, SISTERS, CHILDREN GRANDCHILDREN,  OR OUR HUSBAND OR WIFE FINDS US DEAD...  WHEN THEY COME HOME FROM WORK.. YEAH THATS ALL ABOUT COSMETIC SURGERY... WHAT PLANTET ARE PEOPLE FROM THAT THINK THAT, I APOLGISE, IM JUST FEELING A BIT FRUSTRATED, AND ALMOST DIEING WILL MAKE YOU A LITTLE IRRITABLE....

THANKS FOR YOUR TIME.

TO CHOKE REALLY ISN'T A JOKE...................

KAT

Comment on: About rohwer42

Posted in rohwer42 on Aug 2, 2008

www.healingwell.com/pages/Fibromyalgia/Personal_Experiences/

Hello,

 2 hrs plus later... well I guess I need to barricade my self in a room away from phones of any kinds..    I'm Kat, and I just got done writing you about my experience with fibro, anyway went get you some links, to help you, and I'm still learning how to that, anyway..

I'm glad you came to Aidpage, this is a wonderful site, actually it feels a lot more like a extended family,  you know sometimes your family gives advice, good and not so good.  well its all here too. We all do are best to help one another..

I have had Fibro for over 14 years, that's just when I was diagnosed, and that was at a time when some of the drs, thought people who had this, it was all in there heads...  Maybe it was the Drs. that didnt want to address something that has so many facets to it... But that has changed, Fibromyalgia, fibro for short,  as you mentioned, the main deal with it is the pain. (algia) meaning pain.   I am also one of the unfortunate ones that have flares that were  and debilitating.  Fibro aso is inclusive of a lot of other things, that you may of some of are a lot of.. migraines, bladder issues, raynaud's syndrome, muscle spasms, sleep disorders. IBS, the list is bigger.  As I mentioned, dont get to upset when you start reading , because everyone who has fibro does not have all of them, the ones you do have will be at different degrees than others.  One of the ones that most of us get that deal with  fibro is what they call "fibro fog", I hate that. well I'm not fond of any of them really, fibro fog, you feel kind of like you lost your brain and   have forgotten  where it is, and if you when you do find it,  you kind of look at it and go..  I kind of think I know  what this is, its looks kind of familiar, oh yeah its my brain... you feel kind like your temporiarly losing it..  I assure YOU WON'T, it will pass.  There is lots and lots of support out there for people with fibro, there is a  network, might even be called Fibromyalgia Network, in case I don't get a chance in the hour, which I don't think I will, just Google Fibromyalgia Network and see what comes up..   Or when I get back later .  I will find it for you and post..it..

Just know you are not ALONE and you are NOT CRAZY,  you pain is real, even noises and seem louder that what they are.. and they do have medications personally, I take the least amount possible of any of too many ,meds I take now. I have cut back considerably.  other wise you in up with, antidepressants, muscle relaxers, sleeping, pills, pain, pills...  been there done that, and it can get out of hand, because the  stuff you take all of that for is real...    they make something called Lyrics, just for fibro, works for some dont for me...   I try to busy my mind,  imagine my mind being busy.... ok my try at humor..    really when I come to this site, and get involved in helping some one, and some times they write back,  I really don't feel half the pain, the anxiety is lifted, I would say for me,  focusing on helping some one and writing to them,  I think there is actually a part of your brain, forgot what its called, but, now this is true, that part of your brain, that, you do a hobby with, gardening, painting, writing( poems, stories, or just writing in here and focusing on helping that one person,)  it has been proven, you can almost take pain away completely.

I know of a man who is a well know counselor, extremely intelligent guy, was in a small plane crash, he almost dies as well as his wife.. He was in excruciating pain, and the only way he survived the pain part of it, was by doing this weird thing, only he couldn't very well get out  and write something, or do gardening, or paint a picture,  remember there is a part of our brain, its in the front and center that's all I remember of the where of it.    So when he had his crash,  he was  a very disciplined guy anyway,  he said, he would literally have to close his eyes, and go do what ever hobby that worked for him,  and  start doing that in head, as if were really doing it.  and it worked,  He had some pain, but this was a horrible crash, and he had horrific pain.

I do know it can help and sometimes it even takes pain away, all I know is it has to with the part of your brain that use when you like artistic or hobby type stuff..  If it sounds to weird and it did to  me.  for get it, I never mentioned a  thing about it.. I  had not even thought about it till I started coming here and writing and helping people..   And I realized I was going a long time between needing pain meds, anxiety meds.   Food for thought....

This was going to be short, I'm  trying to make my things to people shorter, mainly so I can write to more of them... I will eventually....  Hope this helped some..

Make it the best day you can  :)

Kat                                     if you go to my page I havvent addressed my fibro, I have major teeth or lack of issues.. but I will start posting on Fibro too.... thanks

Comment on: Dental implants

Posted in dentist1 on Aug 1, 2008

Hello there,  thank you for not giving up on me, this last week and half half been heart breaking for me as one of my good friends ,  was in a car wreck on the July 20th with 2 of her daughters, and the younger on that what 12 almost 13, didn't live.  

I really to want to talk to you about this,  it seems have some my posts about my mouth and finacial condition. To be honest with you, becaue of my friends daugher dying, and so suddenly. I have been dealing with the shock,  I have felt guily, for not having been on here, like I normaly am.

As you know I first game here it was out of  total desperation , and  I shared as many ways,  as possible to explain what  was finally explained to me. by a reputable dentist, I had to pay a consultaion fee of  50+ dollars,  but at least I was given some answers, I  went from hope, and smiling, and joking,  thinking I will  now I will have  a good dentist, tell me,  I  just need a set of  good dentures, and then , try to figure out to pay for them. but Im stubborn I would have to gone  to any lengths, other then to do something illegal, . to try and get them   Having been sick for quite some time,  well for almost 7 years, couldnt wear the bottoms at all,  because I guess, none of the Medi -CaL dentist  wouldn't  expound anything... 

That first guy  was very gracious, but as he began to explain what was wrong with my mouth, and not the dentures, although they played a part... my smile, turned to tears going down my face, I couldnt help it.   I had waited so long to even get the courage to go, see some one.  He was very gracious, he said he didnt think as he  said  he didn't think he could help me with the could do anything for the top, because of the the ridges ,or the bump or something like that,  the way I guess I was born.. that was the major problem, then he said  the next thing, was where the pallet of he denture usually hits this part.  on me, my gag refles was right there and extremely sensitve,  and then I have child size mouth.   I was still crying, my friend was there ,and she tried to keep my hopes, up he said possiby I could get mini implants for the bottom..  My friend said surely there are people with worse mouth problems then her.. He said of cousre there are and he sent me to a oral  something not donist,   a specilist in mouth problems and denture problems..  so I had made  another appt.  there was anoter fee this almost 100 dollars,  any way I didnt tell him anything the denist said previously,  He  was equally as kind,s and I again had my hopes  up again., and trying to be funny, because when Im not going thru all of this , I am funny and make others laugh and smile...

So he spent about 2 and half hours talking,  looking and explaining. almost ferbatem, what the first guy said , exept  he gave me hope again,  Said that he could make special dentures, for the top, that they would have no pallet part on the top, but  they would require 4 implants, and then the bottoms would require 2, well I had heard about the price of implats The tears came again... He said for the 2 special dentures and the 3 to 4 month of follow up while you are healing, and your mouth is getting ready to recieve the implants. he said that would be about 9,000.  I  really just  wanted to die, I was tired depressed, phiscally sick most of time, because I have Barretts Esphagas, something like that. Its a precanerous esphageal condition.  Ive already had surgery on bleeding ulcers in my esphagas, and I have stomach ulcer history as well, runs in my family... 

Anyway when he said 9000,  my friend was still trying to encourage me,  my husband makes 8.35 and hour after being on the same job for 17 years,  Ive only been with him 7 years, I was on strong medication when I met him, and we married soon after, we woud make better friends.. thats a whold nother story..

Oh and Im on SSI and Medicare, and they consider  teeth implants cosmetic  surgerey NOT...

Any I was think I will figure out something some how... and  he saw me kind get a little relief look on my face... He says thats the expensive part... will be the  oral surgeon,  He said I would need to go see him for another  consult this one was going to be alost 200.00  and it would be 2,400 a implant, that comes up to about 14,000 for him,  and mind you, I don't really even know if he will add on anything else, this guy didn't say he would. so maybe he wouldnt. havent got a glue. I made the appt, with this the oral surgeon, but by the  way I canceled it,  I couldn't keep putting out money, dont have it, and then what would  be the point to get there and say need cash because medi-cal will NOT cover at all for implants, they thinks its cosmetic, sorry its not, Ive got pictures in here with and with my teeth in and I'm not that horribe to look at with out my teeth, its medical,  teeth our neccarry to mastitate are food. Teeth weren' like a option, later in life, let me would I like teeth,no  or heck let me teeth.  We are born with mouth that produce teeth, I know said that wrong but you know what I mean,    I  was really getting so upset to think I was going to end up  feeling sick  to my stomach all the time  and sometimes I throw up. because of the acid and bacteria,  thats another probem I get from this, if you still are awake and  are reading my lovly novel   "To have implants or not that is the question"  by the Toothless Wonder......  ok I had try and be funny....  I haven't been hired as a comedian yet either,... wonder why.....   I almost felt bad for him,  because  he  really had not a clue,  how much money he was talking  about to me,  you would think after being married 6 or 7 times,  I would have money for teeth implants,, but I have never been the gold digger type, althogh, gold teeth are quite poplular I hear..... sorry I fight depression with humor  and helping others..  to me about , and don't think he really understood how sick I get, I swallow acid almost continuos ly  health so  I  was crying again, almost uncontrolably.     He tried to make me feel better, he said well you don't have to pay my (9000) for the special dentures ,   and  the 3 to 4 month  healing process. till your all done and your happy with  the  work.  I will say and shamefully so, the thought briefly cross my mind if I could come up with 14,000 ,  you know was just dreaming.    but then once my teeth were all done and i didnt have the money w ould he take them back.. NO, I would never do that, not in me .But he said the oral surgeon will want his up front, I guess I dont live in same world,  he said the oral surgeon will take off your consult money, which would have been almost  300, somthing around their, Im very fatiged.   if you decide to get the procedure.  

I think I have given you enough reading material for a life time.. but all of that aside, I really want to work on getting some changes out there for people like me.  People have suggested  dental colleges, nope, that didnt pan out,   checked, some one suggested maybe some one could look at a before and aftrer picture and maysome would do it that way, you know one of those with no make up  and no teeth,  then the one after with the make and the glistening white teeth. I have not proposed that to any one yet...  But I am a thinker, I think like write,,, I have alot of good ideas ,  and I do still have my brain intact, even if my grammar and spelling is well not the best.... I would willing to go and talk anyhere, to dentists, oral specilists, an  oral surgeons, and yes even the insuranc people that are pushing alot of the dentist and oral surgeons.. I want to live. I dont know if all of this acid will speed up or increase my espahgeal cancer. but I do know Im sick of being sick. and all any hears about are my dumb teeth.

Believe or not I'm done  for now, I was supose to out of here 3 hours ago, because I clean a house and scrub a toilet, and clean  once a week, and it kills my back, Im dissabled for a couple of reasons.  But Im trying to do my part to get money togethere.  Thank from the bottom of my heart, for your time, and  coming to this site.. some didnt think any dentists or professial type people would, but I always believed they would and there will be more...

So I'm open for ideas my dentist friend,   I cant believe I used those two words together..  dentist friend....  well stranger have happened.... Make a great day.. 

Tomorrow Im going to post about choking  on food that you try and gum because your hungry and want to taste something  good or different now and then, and miss meat sometimes... anyway im going to blogh on that because twice in the last 2 days, its been awhile since I did that, but it is a very large fear, of mine, that I'm going choke at home alone and be found dead by someone.  That does not put a smile on face.. All the pictures you see in here  are with in the last 6 months and most of them I've have put in my top teeth for a short time very short....

I hope I hear back, I have to go im like 3 hours behind time,  but I thought it was important I talk to a real dentist...  

God

Kat      

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Posted in CherylC on Aug 1, 2008

 in response to CherylC...   

Hello Cheryl, so good to hear from you, I hope things are some what better for you,  I feel bad mysel because my and soul are really dedicated to the people here. and that want to be heard, and tknow they count..YOU COUNT.  Say a  prayer for me. Im going to a funeral now they call them celebration of theat persons life.. I like that better.. my friends name is Heidi and husband Blanie, they had 4 kids ag12 to 17,  a week ago last Sun, a blow out on freeway, and her 12 year died.. So I have been distracted  all of it..

I hope to be back spending hours, on here, again, and getting out of my self, and helping in what   ever way I can,  so many hurting people.. Thank you so much for geting back to me... You put a smile on face..matt

Kat                               

Comment on: Its not about cosmetic surgery,

Posted in kat57 on Jul 31, 2008

 in response to Sandav1...   

Thank you, so much for such a lovely reply, my prayers and  thoughts will be with you daily. You have been thru it... I am so sorry they messed up on  your surgery, how devastating for you emotionally and physically,  now I  am not a "sue everyone you can type of a person"  but that certainly sounds like you would have grounds for some  sort of lawsuit  to present,  to someone with what they did to your body to your breast and mind and emotions..

. I am so sorry for  all of  you have had some horrific times.

It is people like you, that I hope will be able to write and send letters, to the ADA, and insurance co.'s  and even Medi-cal,  for I'm in Cal also.  Yours has  been one of the Best letters, on some  of  the many medical problems, that come from no teeth, and not just dentures, we cant all wear dentures, and this the point.,  and you have children involved..  please keep in contact with me..I think you could be very instrumental in helping change things!   Also  who  will continue to have MEDICAL PROBLEMS related  to not getting the coverage we need , to insurance companies and Medi-cal not paying for teeth implants,  that's what permanent dentures are., those lovely screw in permanent teeth, or around 2400 a tooth...  .   A lot of people with teeth just don't get it!!  trying to eat with  no teeth,  especially when your hungry, causes choking problems..  Very easy for them to say just eat baby food...  we are not babies, are adults with a medical problem nobody is addressing!   We do get hungry (we, those with this issue) and you just sometimes practically inhale, most, all food  was never meant to be inhaled.. CHOKING IS SCARY AND REAL..   I have been out with friends and alone when this is happened, and its pretty scary when your alone, you don't know, if this will be the time you cant get the food to go down.. well you get the idea.. you start frothing.   As you know when  you have no teeth  you, have more saliva,  at least at  the  people I have talked to have this problemI almost constantly chew on my gums and swallow,    all of this added  to all of the fore mentioned,  just compiles for me   lots of  others and does not make a good scenario , which adds to the acid, in my stomach, and esophagus.. 

Well enough for now,  but PLEASE continue writing, feel free to write me,   I have some ideas.... put on your thinking cap.  We can win this battle, just don't give up..

Thank you so much for your letter..

God Bless

Kat    

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Posted in poorman1 on Jul 28, 2008... modified on Jul 28, 2008

 in response to poorman1...   

Hello again,  thanks for the God bless, I can always use those....and are appreciated.   My aidpage friend, it sounds as though your very angry, and hurt, which I think most of us who, are hurting espially  financially,  and  we don't  get the help,  we need right away,   get that way.   

  When I vote, I look deep into someones values, and a lot of liberals, may not have the same ones,  I do, and that is there  choice,  its sad,  the world  as so much anger, and it seems everyone wants to be in contol and usually I think there is alot of  greed involved also, which I personally think is the reason,  for most wars,  rather  it be between countries,   or familys, or   people we know, even friends, just my opinon... 

I'm not sure which minorities you mean,  but there are a lot of caucasian,  people that don't believe in the same God I do,  or  you,  but thats there choice,  when I hear the word minorities,  I think of the word 'race',    I don't like even  like being considered a certain race,   I AM  PART OF  THE HUMAM RACE,    there is good and bad , in all of us, its just the , and behaviors,   we as people  decide to with the our lives,   to behave in a good or bad manor.     Being part of the human race,   as I am, and as a Christian,  I believe I still have to fight my desires,  and temptations, just like any one else,   to  behave in a way that I would consider offensive to others,  or  to the God , I believe in..   I also agree with  you,  for me, there are no other choices,  there is only being one God, and His name is Jesus Christ, but God never wants people to pushed to come to  Him,  or  of  that knowledge, this is why He gave us a free will,  you seem to be knowledgeable about Him.  So I think,  that your beliefs are  very simular   to mine,   it sounds as though we believe in the same  God/Jesus,  and if that is true,   God  is " LOVE."   your beliefs sounded very simular to mine,  if not  forgive me for assuming,  I'm so sorry you have  been  so hurt,  by so many,  as hard as it is to forgive,  and it can seem almost impossible at times,  to forgive those that  have hurt us, and I know from my own experiences,  in life, sometimes t forgiveness  can take 5 min.,  or 5 years , or even 15 years , depending on the hurt.

I'm not religious at all,  its not even one of favorite words, too many religious people, are judgemental, and   only see things in black and white. I think sometimes they just cant help it,  when you are brought i up  n any home, and taught just one thing, one way of thinking only,   from the time of birth  to adult, then   your  kind stuck in that belief system no matter how lucricrous it may be...people  usually  will  believe,  all the stuff , they are taught  while growing up, espially if they are taught nothing else but th one thing..  and no exposture to any other way of thinking.

I haven't always been compassionate, but  most of my life I have, probably since I was a little girl.  Because I love all people.

 The   paragraph up above right before Im talking about the cmpassiante thing.    religous people, or it could even refer to nprejidous people  too.    This is the  only example I cam think of, off the top of my head.. bear with me,    It would  be kind of like if you had a  kid,  and he  never  was allowed to go  out of the house,  and he was taught,  over,  and over , that any one with a green car, is bad, shouldn't be allowed to live....  Now if that child,  that as heard this over and over from birth,  and  finally gets out of that house, and hes say 21 years old,  what do you think he is going to do/think  when he sees someone with a gren car, or driving a green car...?  well ,  I know I wouldn't want to be in that green car if he saw me..

I usually don't get  going on these kind of topics, because to many  people,  can take things  the wrong way,  and  I don't like to offend people. and this a pla tform for people  helping  other people..

Somehow I hope I was able to help you, with some of this. maybe not, but it was genuinely from a heart that cares. I could just feel your anger and hurt...

I'm going to shut up, and just say I just feel bad , with you,  qne  not sorry for you,  so think  on that,  I just can feel other peoples  pain at times..lucky me.

So I hope you took everything I said, with a good heart,  for it was said with good intentions,  and a good heart. 

I hope you eventually will be able to reach out ,  and help some people on here, with a kind word, it does wonders for both for others and  YOU..... :) :)

God Bless and make the best day possible.

Kat

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Posted in How are you today? on Jul 27, 2008

well its 1229 am in Ca. where I am, I haven't   responded to near as many people,  has I would to have like to this week to a to a friend of mind losing her 12 year old in car accident. So I was trying to help with that.  But I'm back now. But I love coming on here and helping people in any way I can, so I end up staying up to wee hours of morning.  So I'm going to be good and go to sleep, or at least try. 

Thank you so much, for allowing me come here, and post my much needed problem, I will not give up, and please don't' any you. This is my cat Kissy, and this picture looks how I feel now and have for days.   So good nite to the founders of this site and all of its loving and helping angels...... Kat

Good nite  zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

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Posted in poorman1 on Jul 27, 2008

Hello,  I'm Kat,  I think there are a whole lot of people who would love to help,   I have been   here since  June 27th,   and put out my lengthy request either money or links, anything . I think they do  their very  best  here, to offer links of places   of   places that may help u,  

 I'm so  sorry   you are   struggling, I  sincerely am, if you have been on here since May,   and if  you come to the site much, and read much of what people write,  its very hard times for so many..    I really need help badly with my mouth,  either monies, big monies,  or  a specialist  oral type person , or a  oral    surgeon,  that could    donate some work, I don't have  answers yet,     I just know  the 6   teeth implants  and special dentures,  that I need ,   aren't just for a  pretty  smile. I'm  sick and get  I feel   sicker all   the   time, because of it.  and my life possibly could   be dependant on if,   I am able to or  get them,  or not.  It would take to long to  explain.  I don 't   know,  I guess  I wait.  And don't give up...

In the mean time I started  reading,  and writing to people on here, to offer encouragement,  and  ideas how to make money,   or give l inks, I bavent  got very   good at that  YET,    but I will, because   I really want to  help   others,     I'm waiting for money or a Oral surgeon, or some kind person  to help.  and  its going   to  be a   rather lg donation ,  if that's the way  will   happen  I don't know I just know it will take  me  being patient,     that's not always easy,  but that's just life in these days.

It was nice to hear you say Dear God, because my opinion is this site is a God send.   People helping people............  we all do our best in here , in what ever capacity we can, I would give anything to  be able to help so many of the people I read about, including you...  

All I can say is, and this may not be your cup of tea..... is read some of these posts,  and offer something to them,, a cyber smile, when they  are feeling  hopeless and   forgotten.      even  just offering  a kind word or a  prayer,   if you do that  kind of   thing,    because  there are alot o f  people, like you on here, people  that  just sometimes,  want to know they are visible, and people are listening to them... 

So I just wanted you to know, as soon as I saw your post,  I felt bad for you, and  I hope I have explained, how I have found this to work for me, while waiting for my answer.   Helping others in what ever way you can, will make a difference in your, hopeless feelings, and will even possible put a smile on your face.   I hope I was able to let you know, you are being heard, and like most of us, we just have to have to have patience, and its hare when you feel like your life is going down the tubes.. But please hang in there, and try, just for the fun of it or the challenge, to see what happens when you start reaching out...

Thank you for your time, I know I write way to long. but I'm working on that too.

God bless,

Kat

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Posted in W H O ~ K N E W on Jul 26, 2008... modified on Jul 26, 2008

Hi, I thank you so much for what you messaged me, it isn't a easy thing, for me to be anything but kind, but I just had to say what I felt, and feel to be true. I really was as gracious as possible with her, I really feel she was being disrespectful, to what this site. stand for, and had no integrity as all, I really love this site. Ame when I joined this site, which has become become part of my heart and soul. It seems there were a couple of standard's I thought it mentioned something as to the content we post, [not being of a offensive nature), I need to double check. I just got home, and she sent me a message, must have been ashamed not to let everyone see, it. So I am sending, this to you, and I have (copy and pasted) so everyone can see it she said to me.but because I want you to see it, and any one else who knows how I feel about people that come here with real needs, and I feel what she said. was without integrity and hurtful, and done with now no thoughts of try to help anyone, bur her self, and her vanity..(disgracing all of us at this site.] and then to sent me the message, she did, was and is was short, bit I word can cause much devastating for anyone.. I'm going to show you now, she went beyond rude with me, and didn't have the the guts, to put it out for for all to see. I do! Maybe, I'm just being too sensitive because of my devastating week. I don't think so, I think I would have still responded to her the same. she may be too embarrassed to post the message for all to see, but I'm not, So here it is for you any one else to see, I really hope to hear, from the people on this site, and and even from Wizard, or Emil, to hear people's thoughts on this.. Thank you. So much for being so supportive... Kat  Here is what was sent to me by her..

hey gumby- worry about your own gums - not my boobs. I don... - from nyangel R - 3 hours ago   visit page

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hey gumby- worry about your own gums - not my boobs. I dont begrudge you your teeth so good luck and stay off my page....


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Posted in nyangel on Jul 25, 2008

I'm kinda thinking the same  thing, as the comment below, how again will that uplift us , again.  I dont see  how you getting bigger b....bs,  uplifting the person with no roof , over their head, or the person who cant pay  for a surgery , that could save their life.  Or how will it uplift the mama,  and daddy that have no food , no job , but are trying there best,  and asking people in here for help, yes  they ask for  money too, I have myself, but they are as content as  I am I,   when some one just says they understand and offers encourgement, a prayer,     Some  our excited, so excited and grateful just for a idea,  such a bake sale, a car wash,  to help them get what  they NEED, . and  have hocked things they never though they  would in a million years, just to keep their family together. 

      Im really trying to think  of one thing , I have read in here that would make these peoples day better or uplift them, if your were to have bigger b....   You say your in good shape, you seem to be some what articulate.  What I personally think  might uplift us, is for you to be thankful , 1. your in good shape,   and  have breast  that area36b,   some would  be greatful for  that.    I am a compassiante caring person,  this is a wonderful site, there are some , not many women that really have no breast,  they look like a man on top,  they I would would at least understand, how that would effect how they felt, it emotionally be hard for some woman,  and I m referring to the ones  that are   like 28 A or less, I actually no of two women, 1 of them  liteally  doesn look, what some would call femine, but she walks, she works out, she sales real estate, and lives with it,  and focus's on of her other attributes..  Or if you had very lg breasts, and had back trouble, then it could be  a medical  issue.   Some of those women are have incredible amout of back pain.  

 but, I'm sorry because you want bigger b...., and then , when you get donations you want to be emailed to show your before and after picturs,  and what good came from your donations, I find that very offensive, and anyone who is on here much knows, I have never said that to anyone, but its almost being pornagraphic, when you want people to come to your email after surgery  and check out your b.... bs.

Nope Im not going for it,  I see this is your first time is here, maybe you were confused about this site.

My suggestions are  1,  read about oh say 25, of peoples requests, and if that still does not help you to see what I believe this sight to be about,  then maybe you could ask for donations for a optamalgist, I think it might your eyes, that require be checked.

I feel  sorry for you, acutally,  and thats my donation, to your cause.  Again, as the sweet lady before me said how again is this going to uplift us...

You might try try going on the corners, no seriously, where they  people that make alot of money dueing that. I ascually had thought of doing that my self, but mine was for 6 teeth implants,.  because Im sick, nauseous, some times throw up, because I dont have inurance that covers teeth implants, because consdiered. teeth implants are considered cosmetic,    

I hope you find the help you need but  to come on a site  like this  that ecourages, people  in real need, to donate money  for you to have  bigger boobs  than  as the audasity to say email,  you and see the before and after...

I ve said  what I needed..

Kat

Comment on: About esther51

Posted in kat57 on Jul 25, 2008

 in response to ekikaseven...   

Hello my friend, its been too long, thankyou for your sympathy,  Its been a very hard week.  Heidi is  a very strong woman of God.. but it will still be hard not, holding her daughter in her arms or hearing voice.

I dont know why you think you offended me..   there was one comment about, the posting I think that was directed to dr dentist, oral surgeons...  about them most likely not ever coming here...   I wasn't offended, I  have alot of faith. and millions of people come on line.. and I know a couple of my first postings our out on regular pages. and then people come here if they click on it.   I think some will eventully do that, but in the mean time,  the good thing was it gave a idea, which I shared with Emil, he thought it was intersting, and maybe would do something like it, he was going to talk to colleages, and let me know, and then this week I have not been here much.  But Im back now, and i will be checking with him on it...

You could never offend me, you brought happy tears to my eyes  when I got  one  of my  first comments .

Honest were good, wish I heard more from you..

Ok?

got to run, got chuch tonite, or main time is Fri nite then I go Sun too...   :):)

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Posted in Jean562 on Jul 25, 2008

Hello ,  Just woke up and went to favorite place to go. which is here. I realized your son was 18,  I just  was commending you on raiseing  him at all, some couldn't do that...   It was very late when I wrote you last nite,  I will be more focused.  Im so sorry your life as changed so much..   Mental illness is a horrible thing to have deal with at age, rather you  be the with  [ the illness. or the family of the person  who has,it )   I have been on sides of that horrible coin,  I spent my share of time in mental hospitals  when I was in my mid 20's up till  40 ish, for depression, and other things.   and  I have a daugher who is bi polar, and a brother who is bi polar...   So I do understand.    I  also have a freind that was divorsed and settled into her life .  Then along  came a very nice man,  who like to go squzre danceing, liked going  to yard sells , had  he had  lots oh fun  hobbys. seemed fine. They got married,    he was  fine in the beginning of there marrige.  Oh  and  this lady was probly in her early 60s , when she met him he was a bit older.  He ended up having metal problems,, of the  bipolar type,  her life has never the same, she also has a non-maligant brain   tumor.  which of course  means its not cancerous, but where it sits, is inoperatable,  has taken away all of her hearing on  one side..shes  about 74, but as always looked way younger and  acted younger in a good sense. The thing about her that inspires , me, and I hope it will you,   She remains postitve , probably95 % of the time, she  has a daughter,  that live s in Washington State,   that I believe has mouth cancer,  and she never smoked, and she is widowed, her husband died of some cancer.  my point  in all of this horrible stuff, just to add to it , she s also being treated terrible by her mentally ill' s  husbands adult  children,   The thing about her is , she always a good word  to  give anyone she talks to,  she will talk about her problems,  but briefly and then just try and make other peoples days better with  her possitive attitude,  unlike me at times  who can be self absorbed, although I fight it.  she doesnt dwell,  Ive  learned alot over the years from her f Im 57 and my mom has known her since I was probably 5 years old. 

Its horrible when you have had a confortable life, and bam, something happens,  and evrery thing slowly or quickly is gone, we live in hard times.  and this is one of the reasons I like this site... I really hope you get more ideas for money,  and there alot of people including me when Im more alert, at brainstorming ideas,  are that have links to help you with.   Sometimes some  of  us,  have estreme money situations , or medical/dental situations  in  our own lives that require money,  thats how I found this site because I was and still am in need.  

This is just my opinon, and some others on this site I think,  some of us have found  the magic, in encourageing, saying a prayer, empthising, and showing compassion for those , that may have  it worse. or just frazzled and overhelmed.  By the way,  when I first came here a month ago, I  sounded somewhat like you,  but not exactly,  I was depressed and feeling desperate, about my own situation, mine  has to do with dental implants, and I for the first time wont go into my story right now,  if you want,   your welcome to read it.  Its just people sometimes when they hear ,  something like dental implants,  dont neccearly think of them as a medical problem.     anyway I was depressed and getting worse and feeling desperate, I came in here and posted, and posted and posted, everyway I could thing to get people to hear me and understand my need.  Then I stopped looking at myself long enough,  this is me not you.. but I finally started reading about peoples isses and problems, and I have always had a heart for people, since i was a little girl actually,   So I was pulled into their worlds, and my heart was saddened,  one , because I couldn't do anything money wise,  for them, and two,  because of their situations. Granted we all know some on here will  be scammers ,  some try to  pretend to have monies and get people  to trust them and they end of losing what little they may have had,  and some are just freeloaders,  my dad use to use that term..  

The neat thing that happend Jean, as I becan to  talk to  the people on here    and  offer encouragement,  hope,  and  just letting them know they were heard,  just feel their sorrow with them, let them no they were not ivisable,  I began to feel better and  my depression became less, and  sometimes , you get the  added bonus,  of some writng back , just so exctited for the ideas you gave them, the hope that they needed , more than anything,   to be restored. 

Maybe that doesnt work for everyone, but alot of us it does, and I still have the same great need,  that I came here a month ago with,  and I still believe eventually I will get the help I need. I just dont let  it ovver whelm me to the  point, of depression and hopelessness any more.   becaue if you write people, its kind  of like the , law of averages,   in sales,  horrible example, but the more you write,  the more that you get wrote  back,  some one will have your  or my answer someday , and in the mean time, putting a smile on someones  face , that has not smiled in avery long time,  have  given hope to someone who had begun feeling hopless.. is worth it all! 

I will continue to pray for your situation, including your sister with the ovarian cancer. and for peace for you, and that you get the job your applying for....and for your son of course...

God  Bless,

Kat 

Comment on: What's on your heart and mind today?

Posted in How are you today? on Jul 25, 2008

 in response to mommy2skie...   

Hey there my iof a close friend, I was doing losy, but am better,  How are you did see about you bake auction??  car/wash? I really think you coul have made some good money to help with situation. . Any Im back and will  be back to my old/young self and  brainstoring agin and  you a thinker ..  any way I thought about you almost everyday I wasnot  here.  Kiss your sweet gir a hug... don't give up, I wont give up on you.  you have so much potentioanl.  we coud use some more angels around here like youl

God bles you my sweet friend

Kat

Comment on: About Jean562

Posted in Jean562 on Jul 25, 2008

Hello Jean, and welcome to a site that ast the potentianl to forever change your life and who knows make life eaiser for Kevin. First off I commend you for rasising your son, that can be a frustrating envevor at any age.  This site is about people helping people, that can come in many forms.  The one form most of us would like to see firstr of course would be of  a monetary value,.  Unfortanely for now, that is the thing that is the  hardest to get, but  the good thing is people, on this site, are continuely thinking of ideas, and hooking others up to links, ley than they can possibly get help from. I have been here about a month and came on abour 5 hours at a time or stretch it out, I jsut came back ty, had a close friend get a car accident last Mon nite, and her younest daughter who was was killed. cute little angel, that she was and for 12 year old, already had the heart to help people, makeing them laugh, when they were sad,  and had been growing her hair down.she had hair done to her lower back, becaue she wanted to donate to Locks of Love, where they give the hair to kids,  and I think adults, who have lost there  do to chemo therepy from differnt cancers.. If we all could have  hearts, such as little as  this one that got taken from this world, to her new home, where  there will be  she will never have live with pain and suffering again... 

Now having said that, being you live in Ca. why cant you sign up your son for SSI, or have you, and been declined,  do not give up if that is the case, becaue when  he doesn't get  approved, go  ot one of the SSI lawyers they are good, they doen charge you, unless they win your case, and then dependining on how much they a percetage but you still come out ahead,  getting the back for previous months, and imprortanly then he is on...then he  on ssi. .

As far as the apt, they cant make you move,  becaue of a son that makes too much noise because 0f a disability, I will try and see what the websites or, but you have a lot of rights, or I shoud he does,  you can go and goggle people with disablitys and land lord problems , something to that affect. They may not like noise, and it even embarrass you that he makes the noise.  But they can not keep you from living. thats 1 idea, and one fa

Also I woud juggesr  haveing a bake raffle ,, you can it.  Make some  brownies cookis and som banana bana bred, and  tellthe church  why you want to ha the  bale pxem.   moat churchs , wil help sosmeone they see that oru willing to help them selves., mos  of those things are cheap and if you put them on smal paper plates.   this is good and workd, I sau one in action at our church... The prople have trying to out bid each orhr, and  some fo ht ladies might even throw some things i to sell for yoo.  make alot more with  auction then you to do  having jus a sale. anyway you can wite me and  I will elaborae.   Good luc my friend. Remember  alway think thibk think , brainstorm yo wil be surprized at what you cna come up with \\

God bless and good luck my ffriend

Kat

Comment on: Some good news....

Posted in W H O ~ K N E W on Jul 23, 2008

"Who Knew"  my personal opinion, as always  but I think I know "who Knew"  The guy so many of do like to pray to.  You have been blessed, and you are so  deserving,  not that most that come here arent desvering,  people call it Karma, I call reaping and sewing, and my sweet aid sister/angel   friend.  you give continuousy of yourself. I believe it your time to get back...  I am thrilled for you, beyond words and everyone who has read my stuff, did she say beyond words..lol

BTW, friend if I was in your vinicity, I could not do hearvy stuff but I be busy helping if was there.    I can' imagine, you not having people lined up  wanting to help you, you may have to give out #'s to people then show up to help you, because there will be so many..:) 

You know that saying, and Im not fond of it, but its seem

s to go that way "no pain no gain"    I hope a lot of people will follow your lead, and share there good stuff on here.  When they get something they have needed..    or there just smiling and feeling good today, in the midst of circumstances that are hard... thank you  for sharing  your good news and sharing in such a positive but truthful way.. I dont think I have heard from  Elaine, or have and that he handle..... not important, whats important is she stood by you.  I think she may also be who of those who have been given wings their wings early :)  

Make it a blessed day   --------------  oops I put a laghing icon, I guess shoud ask for eyes as well teeh eh?      looks like a big grin me...:)

BTW  thank you things that you said about my heart,  and I'm still brainstorming,  but trying to make sure I use wisdom and not run totally on my emotions.....  Balance is good.. Ask any tight rope walker  :) :)    When my friend is able to communicate again in a joyful way again, Im going to tell her about you and about aid page.

Need a kat in the house to make sure theres not even 1 mouse..eek :)

 

Comment on: What's on your heart and mind today?

Posted in How are you today? on Jul 22, 2008

 in response to MustangCella...   

God bless you, thank you for the beautiful prayer for  dear friend and her beloved daughter who now is in  a place of no sorrow or pain, and probably dancing one streets, where one day I believe, some of will all be. 
my friend and Heidi use to pray all the time for people some times for each other but mostly intercede for others.  and   we would pray with prayers from the Father himself, like what you just prayed..  Thank you so very much,  I really want mercy for my friend, I don't  want my friend and prayer warrior/intercessor to go home yet.. thank you, people at my own church, did not know of our closeness, so they all kind of just told me to not go Bakersfield, where she had the accident and was hospitalized,  I don't know if she is awake, because she is in critical condition, I don't even know if she knows  her daughter has gone home to be with Jesus... So thank your so much for your ever so special prayer..  I still feel like I need to go there, not infringe on the family, I can be discreet, but Heidi would not have a problem with it if she was conscious.. I don't know  what to do.. I know what my heart says, and what I feel in the spirit to do.. God give me wisdom and clarity....

Thank you so much, feel free anytime to write me. what a beautiful prayer, just like Heidi would pray...

Embracing His love

Kat

Comment on: What's on your heart and mind today?

Posted in How are you today? on Jul 22, 2008

Well, Have been sitting here, falling asleep over and over. Dedicated to this site, today was quite the bummer, a very dear friend of mine was in a car wreck and  her 12 year daughter was killed.  She is a loving selfless person, I pray she makes it.  I was so inspired by her. My prayer is she is  that she is off of the critcal list, and now she will have to deal with the loss of her daughter, she is  a woman with a terrific amount of faith.   People are so odd in times such as this,  people tellling  me, don't go down there, its a just a family time, I know that, and it was added hurt to me.  I would have respected the family, and I know its kind of self asorbed on my aprt to even think about what people wanted to believe about me that was so un true, I have been sitting 3 hours and this  is as far as i have got.. I think Im sill going to try and aswer somebodys plea to be noticed.

thanks for your prayers and encouragent.  no one has conacted me since today so I don't know what else is going on and that is stressing me.. Well I need to turn it over.. and get some sleep, maybe I should go ahead get some sleep so, I can answer people with a more clear head tomorrow..  Thanks for just being there, even if you dont comment, I know your out there and your reading this. the ultimate vent... 

God blees

Kat

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Comment on: What's on your heart and mind today?

Posted in How are you today? on Jul 21, 2008

Whats on  my mind , usually nothing but being on here, and helping and encourageing others,  I will be back on here tonite.. I have to,   and I want to , that is the best way. to get thru somthing hard,    is to reach out.. and help someone else. 

Whats on my heart,  this afternoon, I recieved a email from someone at my church, just  you know,  asking people to pray for something, well the something was,   a freind of our Pastors,   whose name is Heidi, mother of 4,  I think.   Had been a horrific car wreck this morning near bakersfield Ca.  and was in critital condition,  and her 12 year old daughter was killed in the accident.      Well I have been in shock,   most of  the afternoon, the person who sent  the email, didnt realize ,  that Im very close to Heidi, we really only met once at church several months ago,  she lives out of town, Tracy Ca.  but from the first time she saw me, she said your Kat.. the one writing all of the nice and ecnourging things to Sandi.   and then we became very close, communicating  thru myspace, messaging, and phone calls.. I have met few people that were selfless,  in their affairs with others, but this lady  is one of them.    Always kind and loving,  had nothing  but  sweet things to say, about others.   She had even mentioned trying to get me up to Tracy f0r a couple days to get to know her family.. that was a about a week ago..

So Im feeling very devestated right now. I dont know how critical she is?  I don't know if she even knows her 12 your old didnt make it.. She does love God, as do I, that is just our choices.. 

Please those who do pray, pray for Heidi, and her family. I'm numb.. I will bounce back, and will be  ok,  because I will get out of myself by helping some one on here.... Im  just vasiculating between denial, and anger and sadness.. but I know this is just part of the process.. I want to roll back the clock and never have seen that email...

Thanks for letting me share my heart and my mind... I love this site, and I love helping others.. so I will problably be back by tonite, doing what I , writing to people and givng them hope...